What is love?

You can't fall in love with a fictional character, would a lot of people say. Can't you? Why not?

Well, they are fictional. They don't exist. They are a product of fantasy. That is true, I think we can all agree on that part. But let's look at another situation: Can you fall in love with someone you meet online? You start to talk, maybe in a chat, or over e-mail. You get to know each other. No, you don't see all the little things the other do, but if you talk enough, they might come forward anyway. And you learn how the other write. I can for example, at times, tell that my online friends are lying about things like their mood, just by the smileyes they use, or the words they pick, just like people often can tell the same thing about their real life friends, by their expressions or the way they talk. I could draw lines between online friends and being blind or deaf. You use alternative methods to know your friends.

So you can get to know people, using MSN, Skype, a chatroom, a forum and things like that. Do we agree? And when you know someone, and you like what you know, you can easily be friends. Right? And when you are friends, you can easily fall in love. Relationships work way better if you and your partner actually are friends. It's a fact. So why can't you fall in love before you have seen or touched the person? Over the internet, you get to know someone's personality and thoughts, before you judge them by their looks, smell, or by all the little faults they do every day.

Yes, you can fall in love with online friends. I've seen it. So tell me then: What is the difference between that, and falling in love with a fictional character? I can think of one, essential difference: The fictional one never speaks directly to you. The love you may feel for him or her, will never be returned. But then again, have you ever played a roleplay game? You create your own character, to interact with other people's characters. Then they speak directly to your character, and as we know, characters tend to be a part of us. Or what if you, yourself are actually involved in a roleplay game, or just a conversation with a friend, at the very least, and your friends start talking for his or her character instead. Like this:
Character: You look wonderful this morning.
That's some sort of a roleplay game, except that the character is talking directly to you, just like an online friend could.

So I believe it is possible to fall in love with a fictional character. Maybe you can even truly love them, but those cases are rare, I suppose. Perhaps you are more obsessed, after all, because you do know, somewhere inside, that they aren't really real. It's okay to like someone who doesn't exist. Just don't let it drive you too far. Hold on to reality.

This world is good

I have heard it so many times: "This world is a bad place, people need to realize that." "You don't know how bad it is to live in this world." "People are so full of hate, and there is hunger and war."

Yes, some places there is hunger. Some places there is war. And we have all hated, or we will sometime. So what? It doesn't make the world a bad place. Hating is natural for us. I can remember one person (that I knew personally) who I've actually hated. On the other hand, I can remember... a lot of people I have loved. Okay, some countries are at war, or are struggling with hunger. But most countries aren't. And even those who are, they still have love. People protect each other because they love each other. When I talk about this, I often direct people to the intro of the movie Love Actually. If you already have watched it, and remember it, that's splendid, but for those who haven't, here's a link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PMScPVO4rLw
I really recommend it, unless, of course, you don't want to understand the message I'm giving you.
Yes, love is all around. Everywhere we turn. Not only romance, but also friends and family, and kindness from strangers. Don't see the world in such a negative way. Focus on the positive things, because, after all, there are more of them.


See the world
You said:
The world is terrible. It's just not bearable.
You said it's a bad place,
and that I couldn't see it.

I said:
No, it's not. Take a shot.
I said it's a good place,
you were the one who couldn't see.

You said:
Look around on all the hate. This is our fate.
You said there were so many bad things,
and I was too blind to see.

I said:
Look around on all the love. The sun above.
I said there were good things too,
and that you were the blind one.

You said:
I wanna leave this life. I don't want a strife.
You said people kill, hate, hurt
and asked why I couldn't understand.

I said:
Stay. Don't go that way.
I said people love more
and that everywhere I turn
I see an open door.
I see love.
Family, friends, romance,
a smile from a stranger.
And I asked you to try and understand.
Please listen.

But you didn't.
You wouldn't.
I felt withdrawn,
but I moved on,
I saw the sun above.
Because this world
is still full of love.

You are special!

It's been a long, long time since my last entry here. Today I want to talk about attitude. Attitude is important! As some say: "Attitude is altitude."

A lot of teenagers have problems with this. They can't see themselves clearly. They think they are ugly, stupid, mean and worthless, but they are wrong. Every single person on this Earth, was created for a purpose. Every single person on this Earth, is worth something. Has a value. Think about it... Does anyone love you? Anyone at all? A friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, a mother or a father, or maybe a sibling. Could anyone at all love you? Most likely, the answer is yes. And if they love you, there must be a reason for that. They must have started loving you for a reason, and still love you for a reason. What is that reason? The reason is that you are you. No one else is like you. Maybe someone is prettier. Maybe someone is smarter. Maybe someone is funnier, or kinder, or more polite. But the combination of all your abilities and personality traits, that's what makes you YOU. And that's what makes other people love you. You are special. You are unique. And no one can EVER take that from you! Not in a billion years!

So just hang in there! Don't be afraid to be who you are, because now you know you are loved for it. People don't love you for being Beyoncé or Lady GaGa, or the most popular girl in your school. They love you for YOU. And being YOU is always good enough. Never stop believing in that.

Gay

My first entry here will be about homosexuals. I know a lot of people dislike them, and of course, they have the right to do that, but in my humble opinion, that is not a good reason. Someone's sexual orientation should not matter.

Some Christians say that when God created Adam and Eve, he showed that men and women are supposed to be together, but I say that you should see things different. So Adam and Eve were heterosexual, that does not mean that every human should be. The God I know would not punish anyone for who they love. The God I know believes in love, and love is unconditional. I say some guys like guys, some girls like girls, get over it. It's not like you don't deserve to live because you love your parents or your siblings, just like a person who has romantic feelings for someone of the same gender doesn't deserve to die. After all, it's not that long from friend to girlfriend/boyfriend, and it's totally okay that dudes are friends with dudes, right?

Let people be who they are. It is not something they should suffer for.